can we please reject the idea that talking about your ex means you’re not over them. Its okay to have fond memories of someone you aren’t involved with anymore and its okay to tell them to someone who you are involved with now without it meaning you are hung up on your ex. It can mean you’re comfortable talking about your past with someone not that you’re still sad about it.
THIS. IS. SO. IMPORTANT!!!!!
For real. I finally asked my current boyfriend if it made him uncomfortable how much I tend to mention my ex. And he said it was weird at first but then realized that it was just because of how intense my last relationship was. And I told him that I definitely don’t want him back/have those types of feelings for my ex, but he was such a massive part of my life (I mean we almost got married) and we were truly best friends, so that three years of my life were filled with him. That just doesn’t go away!
Communication about that is really good.
